Reducing Divorce Rates

Wedding dress shopping with my daughter continues, and the bridal salon is proving to be an excellent place for people watching.

After three forays into the realm of white, ivory, lace, peals, ruffles, chiffon, satin and sequins, I believe I've discovered a way to reduce divorce rates. Men need to accompany their fiancees while they shop for the perfect gown.

How would this help divorce rates? Well after watching the woman of their dreams in action at the bridal store, I think many of these men would yank that engagement ring off their gal's finger and head for the hills leaving no forwarding address.

The spoiled, whining, demanding, diva-ish behavior is almost frightening to watch. What are most likely normally nice women turn into prima donnas of the first order while shopping for a bridal gown.

It also appears that the bad behavior is directly related to the number of other women (mother, aunts, grandmothers, bridesmaids) accompanying the bride-to-be. In the search for a perfect dress to be showcased at a fairy-tale wedding, some women lose control, forget they ever learned good manners and think they're queen of the world.

My comments sound harsh, but while accompanying my daughter, and my niece two years ago, I've observed a number of brides so I'm not making this up.  If you don't believe me, stroll around a bridal salon one Saturday afternoon and see for yourself.

So, I think the custom of surprising the groom at the altar with a vision of bridal loveliness should be abolished. The groom might be in a better position to really determine if he wants to marry his woman if he sees her in action as she seeks the perfect gown.

And perhaps, in order for the bride to make a final determination about the integrity of her groom, she should attend his bachelor party.

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  1. Yikes! You're right, though. I didn't experience the whole official wedding thing that people usually do; we were super low budget, everything homemade. The most expensive thing was the person marrying us. However, I've been in several bridal parties, and yowza! My friends were great, happily, but I did witness others in those shops and was shocked. Sure, I've seen movies, but I figured that couldn't be true too often, right? Wrong!

    Shannon at The Warrior Muse

    1. I know, who would believe people really behave this way?

  2. My guess would be that it wouldn't come as a huge surprise to the groom. He's probably already living with her anyway.

  3. I think this is great idea! All the wedding stuff AND the bachelor party. Both bride and groom should be in all of it. It WOULD be an eye-opener to what they're getting into. And give couples a more realistic view of marriage, which we ALL need. :-)

    1. Agreed. We go into marriage with a lot of allusions (and delusions). A little dose of reality would be a good thing.

  4. Hear! Hear! Fortunately, neither of my husbands had bachelor parties. It would make me nervous.